Pick one friend who’s allowed to ask “did you actually do it?” and give them permission to be annoying.

Plans made alone stay comfortable because nobody ever checks them. What one person with standing permission gives you is not motivation but friction, the specific discomfort of having to say no, I did not, to someone who will remember. Pick the friend who will genuinely ask rather than the one who will be nice about it.

Choose one thing this week, tell exactly one person what it is and when it is due, and say plainly that you want to be asked. Then answer honestly. The whole mechanism collapses the moment you start managing their impression instead.