Tough isn’t never falling apart. Tough is knowing where you put the pieces.

Falling apart is not a failure of toughness, it is what happens to people carrying real weight. What separates people is whether they can find their way back: the friend they call, the music, the walk, the routine that puts them in working order again. That knowledge gets built by paying attention on the way down and on the way back up.

Write down the three things that have actually helped you recover before, and keep the list somewhere you can find it when you are not thinking clearly. Use it on the next bad night instead of trying to invent a plan from scratch.