Aim to be someone your younger self would trust, not just someone they’d be jealous of.

Envy and trust point at different things. A ten-year-old version of you would be impressed by the obvious stuff, the money and the status, but whether they would bring you something they were frightened about is a harder test. One asks about the outside of a life and the other asks about character. Becoming enviable is fairly quick; becoming trustworthy takes a while.

Picture yourself at about nine and ask whether that kid would come to you with a problem. If the honest answer is no, find the reason: too busy, too sharp, too quick to judge. Soften that with somebody younger this week.