Effects teach slowly when causes remain emotionally protected.

You cannot learn from a cause you have decided not to look at. When the origin of a problem touches something you are attached to, an identity, a relationship, a story about yourself, the mind will accept almost any other explanation first. The lesson stays available and simply never gets collected.

Notice where your analysis of a recurring problem always stops at the same place. That stopping point is worth examining, gently. You do not have to conclude anything today, only look.