Forgiving your brother doesn’t mean pretending he didn’t read your diary. It means not reading his back.

Forgiving somebody does not involve agreeing that nothing happened. He read it, it was a violation, and you are allowed to know that permanently. What forgiveness actually asks is narrower and harder: you stop collecting. No reading his, no evening the score, no holding the thing in reserve for later use in an argument.

This week, notice the moment you are offered a chance to get even and let it pass. You do not have to feel warm about them, and you do not have to pretend it was fine. You just do not take the shot.