Ask the pastor the hard question. A good one will be glad you did.

Hard questions are a compliment to the person receiving them. Asking means you think they can handle it and that you take the subject seriously enough to want a real answer. Anybody secure in what they believe is not threatened by being examined. The ones who get defensive are telling you something useful too.

Ask one genuine question this week, out loud, of somebody who should know. After practice, after class, after the service, whenever you can catch them alone. Settle for an honest answer over a tidy one.