The new version of you will feel fake for a while. Then it’ll feel like the only one that ever existed.
CREATIVITY
WHAT THIS MEANS
Anything you have just started doing feels like acting, because you have no history of doing it. Confidence in a new way of being comes from the repetitions, which by definition you have not done yet. The gap between the behaviour and the feeling is the normal cost of changing, not evidence that you are pretending.
Decide to tolerate the fake feeling for a set number of weeks rather than treating it as a verdict. Keep doing the new thing on the days it feels staged. Somewhere in there it stops being a costume and you will not notice the moment.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Does anything you are doing lately still feel like acting?
MORE IN GROWTH, CHANGE & REINVENTION
- In a new language you’ll understand way more than you can say for a long time. That gap is normal, not stuck.
- Your little cousin can teach you a trick on your own phone. Growing means staying teachable to anyone.
- Your parents might still treat you like you’re twelve. Show them who you are now more than you tell them.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.