The first months in a new town are lonely for almost everyone. It’s a phase, not a verdict on you.

The loneliness of a new place is structural rather than personal. Nobody has had time to become a friend yet, there is no shared history to fall back on, and the ordinary ways people meet take weeks to produce anything. That is a fact about the calendar, not a report on how likeable you are.

Hold off on conclusions about yourself for a few months and work on the mechanics instead. Say yes to things that repeat weekly, since repetition is what turns people into friends. Expect the fourth month to look very different from the first.