Let other people change too. Don’t hold your friends to who they were in seventh grade.

It is easy to demand room to grow and then refuse to give any. Old friends are the hardest people to let change, because your memory of them is detailed, comfortable and useful for jokes. Holding somebody to a thirteen year old version of themselves is the same trap you hate being in.

Notice whether you still introduce a friend with a story from years ago. Ask one of them what they are into now and take the answer seriously, even if it is nothing like the old thing. Give them the margin you would want.