An apology without a change is just a nice speech. The change is the part people believe.
CREATIVITY
WHAT THIS MEANS
Words are the cheap half of an apology. Anyone can produce the right sentences, and most people have heard enough of them to stop treating them as evidence. What gets believed is the next instance of the same situation handled differently, which is why trust rebuilds slowly and never through better phrasing.
If you owe somebody an apology, keep the words short and name the specific thing you will do instead. Then do that thing when it next comes up, especially when it is inconvenient. Let them notice it rather than pointing it out.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
What would make your apology believable to the person receiving it?
MORE IN GROWTH, CHANGE & REINVENTION
- When the group’s favorite topic is who you used to be, it’s okay to miss a few hangouts.
- After school ends, the hallway that made friendships easy is gone. You have to build your own hallways.
- Treading water is learning to stay calm with nothing solid under your feet. You’ll use that skill far from any pool.
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