You can miss your old life and like your new one. Feelings don’t have to pick a side.

Two feelings about the same change can both be accurate. Missing what you left does not mean the move was wrong, and liking where you are does not mean you have betrayed the old place or the people in it. The pressure to settle on one verdict comes from other people’s questions rather than from anything true.

When somebody asks how it is going, try answering with both halves instead of the tidy one. Let yourself miss something on a Sunday and still be glad on Monday. Nothing needs resolving this week.