You can keep your family’s food, language and holidays without keeping every rule that came packed with them.

A culture arrives as a bundle: the food, the language, the holidays, and also the rules about who you should be, what you should study and how much you may question. Those parts came in the same box and they are not the same thing. Keeping the first set while putting down some of the second is not a betrayal; it is how every generation carries a tradition forward instead of freezing it.

Name one thing you want to keep for life and one rule you are quietly setting down. Learn the recipe. Ring your grandparent.