Being weird is just being specific about what you like. Specific people find their people.
REFLECTION
WHAT THIS MEANS
What gets called weird is usually precision. Having a real favourite rather than a safe one, caring about something at an inconvenient level, knowing exactly which part of a song you love: all of that narrows the room, which is the point. Vagueness is more popular and much lonelier, because nobody can recognize you in it.
Say the specific thing out loud this week instead of the acceptable version. Name the actual band, the actual book, the game, the obsession. The people who light up are the ones you were looking for, and being agreeable will never find them.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
What do you like too specifically to mention casually?
MORE IN MINDSET & IDENTITY
- Being bad at small talk doesn’t mean you’re bad with people. Some people do better with big talk.
- If you have to become someone else to keep a person, they’re keeping somebody else.
- “Just be yourself” is hard advice when you’re still figuring out who that is. Try things. Notice what feels like home.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.