Growth starts when criticism becomes information instead of an automatic insult.

Criticism arrives as data and as social threat at the same time, and whichever one you register first determines what happens next. If it lands as an insult, all your energy goes into restoring your standing. If it lands as information, you get to actually use it. The content is identical either way.

Give yourself a delay before responding to feedback, even a few hours. Then look at the criticism written down, stripped of tone and delivery, and ask what percentage of it is accurate. Act on that percentage and let the rest go without a fight.