The match that lights everything else is gone in seconds. Some people’s job is just to start things.

Starting and sustaining are different talents, and the first burns out fast by design. Some people get a thing going, a club, a trip, a conversation that changes a group, and then step back or disappear, which can look like flakiness and is often simply what they are for. The fire is no less real because the match is not in it.

Work out which you are more naturally, then arrange for the other half. If you start things, hand them to somebody steady before you lose interest. If you are the steady type, thank whoever lit the thing you now run.