If they only respect you after you yell, they never respected you. They respected the noise.

If nothing changes until you raise your voice, what is working is the volume and not your standing. That is worth knowing, because it means every reasonable request will be ignored until it escalates, and you are the one who looks unreasonable when it does. Being obeyed is not the same as being taken seriously. The pattern is about them, not about how calmly you asked.

Notice who needs the escalation and who does not, and stop supplying it. Ask once, plainly, and let the thing go undone rather than performing the fight. Spend more of your week with the people who hear you the first time.