If people only like you when you’re the life of the party, they like the show, not you.

Being fun is a service, and some people consume it rather than knowing you. It shows in the quiet weeks: the group that only calls when it wants an atmosphere, the friend who gets bored when you are flat. None of that is a verdict on you, though it does tell you what the arrangement was built on, which is worth knowing before you lean on it.

Run a small test. Be low key next time, or say outright that you are tired and not performing tonight, then see who stays interested. Those are the ones worth your energy.