Watch who gets annoyed when you’re busy. Some miss you. Some miss your usefulness.

Becoming less available is an accidental test, and it sorts people without you having to judge anyone. Some answer with warmth and ask when you are free again. Others answer with irritation, because what they miss is the ride, the loan or the help. Neither reaction makes somebody a bad person; it tells you which part of you they were attached to.

Think back to the last stretch when you had no time. Notice who checked on you and who only checked whether you could do something.