Giving without listening can become another way of deciding for someone.

Giving without asking is a polite form of overruling. You have decided what the problem is, what the solution is, and what the person should be grateful for. It can be well meant and still leave someone managing a gift that solves something they did not have.

Make asking the default. What would actually help right now is a short question and it prevents most misfires. It also treats the person as the authority on their own life, which is frequently what they most need from you.