Notice which friends bring out a version of you that you actually like. Spend more time in that light.
STILLNESS
WHAT THIS MEANS
You are slightly different with different people, and the differences are not random. Some company makes you funnier, braver and more generous, while other company makes you sharper, more cynical and readier to be unkind for a laugh. Neither version is fake, and that is precisely why it matters whose company fills most of your hours.
Go through your main friendships and ask which version of you each one produces. Spend an extra hour this week with whoever brings out the one you actually like. None of this needs announcing to anybody.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Around whom do you like the person you turn into?
MORE IN SOLITUDE & SELF-KNOWLEDGE
- Being both a homebody and a show-off isn’t confusing. It’s normal. Nobody fits in a one-word bio.
- Nobody else can break in your boots for you. Some parts of growing up don’t come with a substitute.
- Skip the big verdict about your life when you’re starving and running on four hours of sleep. Eat, rest, then decide.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.