Nobody else can tell you what you’re good at with certainty. They can only tell you what they’ve seen.

STILLNESS

WHAT THIS MEANS

Other people’s opinions of you are built from samples, and the sample is always small. A teacher saw one subject, a coach saw one position, a manager saw one kind of shift, and each is honestly reporting a slice. Treating any one of those as a verdict hands your range to somebody who had a partial view. Their information is still useful, it is simply not complete.

Gather several views rather than trusting one, and ask for specifics: what did you see me do, and when. Then test the parts nobody has had a chance to see. One new thing this term is enough.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Whose assessment of your ability have you treated as final?

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