Nobody picks the rough year. A lot of people still look back and call it the year they figured out what they were made of.

Rough years are not chosen and they are not deserved. What happens is that difficulty puts you in situations where you find out what you do under pressure, and that information is not available any other way. People often end up valuing a year they never wanted. Both of those things can be true at the same time.

If you are inside one of those years now, you do not have to locate the lesson today. Keep the small routines running and let somebody help you. Understanding tends to arrive afterwards, and arriving late does not make it any less real.