Some of your most loyal friends never like your posts. They just show up when the car won’t start.

Online attention and real help come from different parts of a person. Tapping a heart takes a second and proves almost nothing, while driving across town with jumper cables costs an hour and proves most of what you would want to know. Some of the steadiest people you have are simply not online much, and it is easy to misread that as distance.

Judge by what costs something. Make a short mental list of who has actually turned up for you and check it against who you thank. Then be that kind of friend somewhere this week, even if nobody sees you do it.