If you need people to like you on day one, you’ll end up trusting the wrong ones fast.

Needing to be liked immediately hands the decision to whoever is friendliest. If approval is urgent, you will take the first person who offers it and skip the part where you find out what they are like, because asking questions risks the thing you want. People looking for somebody to use can spot that hurry easily. It is the cheapest thing in the world to be warm for a week.

Slow the first month down on purpose. Be friendly to many and committed to few, and let a couple of people prove ordinary reliability before you hand over much. Being slightly alone in September is not an emergency.