Admitting you messed up before anyone catches you is the fastest trust you’ll ever build.

Coming forward on your own tells people something they cannot learn any other way: that your account of yourself does not depend on being watched. Once somebody has to catch you, every true thing you say afterwards gets checked against something. The order matters more than the size of the mistake.

If something is sitting in your stomach right now, say it today rather than after the weekend. Keep it to what happened and what you are doing about it. The conversation is almost always shorter and calmer than the one you have been imagining.