Once a week, ask what went well, what went badly, and what you’re pretending you didn’t notice.

The first two questions are easy and the third is the one that does the work. Wins and losses are already on your mind, but the thing you half saw and walked past stays out of reach unless you ask for it directly. It is usually small: a message you did not answer, a worry you keep postponing, a habit that is growing.

Pick a fixed time, Sunday night or the bus home on Friday, and give it five minutes. Three lines, no analysis. Write the third line even when you would rather not.