A ref makes dozens of calls a game. You remember the two that hurt you. That’s memory, not proof.

Pain is a filing system. The calls that went against you at the worst moments get stored in full detail, and the many that went your way or did not matter are never written down at all, which leaves you with a vivid record that is also badly sampled. Certainty comes from the vividness, not from the count.

Before deciding someone was against you, try to recall the calls that helped you. If you cannot name any, that gap is the finding. Treat a sense of being wronged as a hypothesis worth checking rather than a result.