Sometimes protection looks exactly like losing what you begged to keep.

Losing something you fought hard to keep can turn out, much later, to have spared you something. That is a possibility to be offered, never a rule, and it is not a reason to feel foolish for having wanted it. Some losses are simply losses, and the ones that turn out otherwise still hurt at the time.

Do not force the reframing while the loss is fresh. Let it be a loss for as long as it is one. If the other reading ever arrives, it will arrive on its own, and it will not require you to have been grateful early.