If people keep calling you intense, ask them what they mean first. Then decide whether they’re wrong.

Repeated words from different people are worth a question before they get a reaction. Intense can mean several things: you interrupt, you go very hard at everything, you are difficult to slow down. Some of those you might want to keep. You cannot sort them without knowing which one they are describing, and the word on its own tells you almost nothing.

Ask the next person who says it what it looks like when you are doing it. Get an example rather than a definition. Then decide, deliberately, which parts you want to keep and which are costing you people you would rather have close.