The phrase finding yourself assumes there is a finished person waiting somewhere to be located.

The phrase implies a finished self, mislaid somewhere, waiting to be recovered. What actually happens is more like construction than discovery, made out of what you try, who you spend time with, and what you commit to. Nothing is waiting, and treating the process as a search can keep you looking instead of building.

When you feel unclear about who you are, doing something specific for a while usually helps more than reflecting. Take up the work, the place, the relationship, and see who you turn into. The answer tends to be produced rather than located.