A luxury can become a necessity by changing the people you compare your life with.

Needs are set by comparison. Move into a different circle and what was an indulgence becomes a baseline, not because you changed your mind but because the reference group changed. The wanting adjusts silently to whoever you are around, which is why people feel exactly as stretched at every income.

Notice who you are currently comparing your life to, since that group was mostly selected by accident. If you want less, changing the comparison is more effective than exercising restraint. This is one of the few levers on wanting that actually works.