The person afraid of losing everything is already carrying everything like a chain.

Holding everything tightly enough to guarantee you never lose it turns the possessions into a load. The fear of loss makes each thing heavier, and eventually you are managing rather than enjoying, which is a strange way to hold what you wanted.

Ask what you are gripping hardest and what would actually happen if you loosened slightly. Often less than you fear. Holding well and holding tightly are different, and only one of them is bearable long term.