The person you love should not always receive the version of you that work has used up.

Work takes the best hours and the rest gets what is left. You are patient, attentive and articulate all day, and by the time you get home there is little capacity left for the people who matter most, who receive the depleted version by default. Nobody chose this, and it is a matter of sequence rather than affection. The people at home should not always be last in the queue for your attention.

Protect one part of the week where you arrive with something still in reserve. Even twenty minutes of quiet before you walk in can change what comes through the door.