A second attempt should not require the other person to forget the first one happened.

Being given another chance is not the same as being handed a blank page. When the person who was hurt is expected to behave as though nothing occurred, the burden of the repair moves quietly onto them, and their memory becomes the thing treated as the problem. A real second attempt makes room for what happened rather than requiring its erasure. Trust returns through evidence, not through forgetting.

If you are the one trying again, let them refer to it without becoming defensive. Their caution is not an accusation; it is the honest condition of starting again.