Growing up includes discovering which family customs were choices all along.

Children experience their household as the way things are done, without a category for alternatives. Then you sleep at a friend’s house, or move out, and discover that the timing of dinner, the volume of arguments, the amount said about money were all decisions somebody made and could have made otherwise. It can be disorienting, because some of those customs were good and some were simply inherited. Sorting one from the other is a large part of becoming an adult.

Name one thing your family did that you have never examined. Decide, on purpose, whether you are keeping it.