The amount spent on a gift can become pressure if gratitude is expected to match it.

GRATITUDE

WHAT THIS MEANS

A gift with a price attached quietly becomes an invoice. Once the cost is known, and the thanks is expected to be proportional to it, the person receiving owes something, and owing is the opposite of being given to. Generosity turns into a transaction without anyone deciding to make it one. The recipient feels the shift immediately and usually cannot say so.

Give in a way that cannot be measured, and leave the price out of the conversation entirely. If you have received something large and feel the weight of it, a plain warm thank you is a complete answer.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Which gift left you feeling you owed something afterward?

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