Inheritance becomes easier to carry when affection is allowed to disagree with habit.

Loving someone does not oblige you to continue their arrangements. Families pass down practices alongside the affection, and the two arrive so tangled that changing a habit can feel like withdrawing love, which is why people keep observances they find hollow long after the person who valued them has gone. Letting affection and habit come apart is what makes an inheritance liveable. You can keep the person and revise the practice.

Name one thing you do only because it was done before you. Decide this time whether you are keeping it because you want it or because dropping it would feel like a betrayal.