A vote settles the count without necessarily settling the concern.

LEADERSHIP

WHAT THIS MEANS

Counting produces a decision, not agreement. The people who lost still hold the reasons they held before, and those reasons do not dissolve because a number went the other way. Treating the tally as the end of the discussion is what turns a settled question into a resentment that resurfaces later in a different shape.

After a decision goes your way, spend a little time with what the other side was actually worried about. Naming their concern out loud, and saying what you will watch for, does more for the outcome than restating that the vote was fair.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Which decision went your way while the disagreement stayed fully alive?

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