The hardest ceiling to break is the one you accidentally started calling yourself.

There is a real difference between saying I failed at this and saying I am a failure. The first is an event with a date attached. The second is a category, and categories do not have exits. Once a description hardens into a noun you use for yourself, every future attempt gets measured against it, and you stop testing the ceiling because you have started calling it your name.

Listen for the moment your language turns from doing to being. When you catch it, put the sentence back into the past tense and attach it to a specific event. It is a small edit that gives you back the room to be someone slightly different tomorrow.