A repaired misunderstanding still leaves the work of rebuilding ease between people.

GRATITUDE

WHAT THIS MEANS

Sorting out the facts is quicker than restoring the comfort. Once an argument has been explained and forgiven, two people can be entirely clear about what happened and still find each other careful, watching their words, waiting for the old temperature to return. That awkwardness is not a sign the repair failed. It is the ordinary lag between agreement and ease.

After you have settled something, spend time together on things that are not the argument. Do something easy and unimportant beside each other. Ease comes back through ordinary contact rather than through further discussion of the incident.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Whom have you apologized to without the old ease coming back?

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