It is a consolation to the wretched to have companions in misery.

There is real relief in finding that someone else is in the same difficulty, and it is not a mean-spirited relief. What eases is the loneliness rather than the trouble, since hardship nobody around you shares carries the extra weight of feeling like a personal defect. Company does not fix the situation, and it does make it bearable.

If you are in a hard stretch, find the people who are in it too, or have been. Say the thing out loud to someone who will recognise it. And when you are the one who has come through, let others know, because that is what makes it findable.