You can bend without belonging to whatever tried to break you.

Adapting to something harsh is not the same as being made in its image. You can adjust, absorb, become more careful, and get through, and none of that requires you to adopt the values of whatever pressed on you. The distinction matters because people often confuse survival with surrender. Bending was how you stayed.

Check whether the changes you have made are adaptations or adoptions. Being more guarded is an adaptation; becoming someone who treats others the way you were treated is not. Where you find the second, that is the part worth deliberately reversing.