You don’t have to repeat your family’s patterns. Noticing them is the first exit.

Patterns run quietly because they were normal before you could evaluate them. The way people in your house handle anger, money, apology or silence became your default setting without anyone choosing it. Seeing the pattern as a pattern is the part that breaks its automatic hold. You did not cause it, and you are not required to carry it forward.

Pick one small thing you have watched happen your whole life and decide what you would rather do instead. It might be as small as answering a text you would normally leave. Change it once and see how it feels, without needing to announce anything at home.