Real growth is realizing the problem wasn’t always everyone else.

There is a moment where the same complaint keeps reappearing with different names attached, and you start to wonder about the common factor. That wondering is uncomfortable and it is also the beginning of having some power over it. Not everything is your fault, and some situations really were about other people. The useful question is which parts were yours to move.

Think of a recurring argument you have with different people. Ask what you do right before it turns, not what they do. Change only your part of that sequence once and watch what happens.