Growth means you can hang out with old friends without sliding into old habits.

Old rooms come with old scripts, and the people in them are not doing anything wrong by keeping theirs. What changes is whether your part still plays automatically when the setting cues it. Being able to sit in the same kitchen, laugh at the same jokes, and not become the previous version of yourself is a real marker. It means the change lives in you rather than in your distance from them.

Before the next time you see them, decide one thing you will not do. Keep it specific and small, and do not announce it. Go anyway, because avoidance is not the same as being different.