You’ll outgrow some dreams. That’s not failure. That’s clarity.

Wanting something at fifteen and not wanting it at twenty means you learned things in between. A dream you drop after looking at it closely was doing its job: it pointed you somewhere, and the trip taught you what you like. Abandoning it is only a loss if the original wanting was the point. Usually the information is the point.

Take one old goal you feel guilty about and ask whether you want the thing or the picture of the thing. Say out loud that you are no longer going for it, if that is true. Notice how much attention comes back once the guilt has nowhere to sit.