There’s no finish line for becoming yourself. There’s just the next lap.

Becoming is not a project with a completion date, which is disappointing for about a minute and freeing after that. If there were a finish, everything before it would be preparation and everything after would be maintenance. Instead, you get a continuous process where the current version is always provisional. Nobody arrives, including the people who look finished.

Drop the question of whether you are there yet, since it has no answer. Ask what the next lap requires and do that piece. Notice that the people you admire are still running too, which is what makes them worth watching.