Change your questions and your answers start changing too.

Every question comes with a built in range of possible answers. Asking why this always happens to me produces a list of grievances, while asking what would need to be true produces a list of moves. The framing does most of the work before you have thought about anything. People stay stuck inside questions that cannot produce a useful reply.

Catch the question you are actually asking yourself this week and write it down as a sentence. Rewrite it so that answering it requires naming an action. Then answer the new version and do the first thing on the list.