Rebel if you need to. Just make sure you’re rebelling toward something, not only against it.

Pushing back against something is real and often necessary. The limitation is that opposition tells you where you are standing, not where you are going, so a life organised entirely around refusal ends up shaped by the thing being refused. You stay tied to whatever you were trying to get away from.

Write down what you actually want, not only what you are finished with. One sentence is enough to start with. Then check whether today’s choice moves you toward that, or only further from the other thing.