Second chances are generous. Just make sure you’re giving one to the person, not to the pattern.

A second chance is worth giving when something has actually changed: they understood it, said so without being cornered, and did something differently afterward. It is worth much less when the only change is that time passed and everyone got tired of the tension. The difference is not how sorry a person seems. It is whether the conditions that produced the first time are still sitting there.

Before handing one out, ask what is different now that was not different before. If you cannot name anything, you are restarting a loop rather than forgiving a person. Say plainly what you would need to see, and let them decide.